I have a few other messages I haven’t replied to, and I don’t feel like repeating myself over and over again on a topic that shouldn’t matter to anyone but yourself. So I’m going to leave this here. This is a quote from Ian MacKaye 

“If you look at the words ‘don’t smoke,’ everyone figures I’m talking about smoking cigarettes, or grass, or hash; ‘don’t drink’ — everyone figures I’m talking about alcohol; ‘don’t fuck’ — everyone figures I’m saying ‘No sex!’ Think about that! think about the word ‘drink’: what does ‘drink’ mean? Do you think that people would ever figure, ‘Oh, he wants people to no longer take any beverages, or any liquids of any sort?’ But when the word ‘fuck’ comes on, they cannot understand it the same way. that just blew my mind. What I was clearly discussing was abusive, quest-oriented, manipulative sex. People who were not interested in other people’s feeling, but only in getting off. I saw as a teenager that people’s energies were so squarely caught up in getting laid that a lot of pain and hurt came with that. People were being hurt and damaged and traumatized by other people’s behavior.”

I really can’t say it any better than Ian MacKaye himself. This is how I feel about sex in straight edge, and whether or not you agree with it is your own choice, just like the choice to be straight edge is your own. No one else should ever be allowed to tell you how to act or how to feel. End of conversation.

(Also, this is from THIS book, which if you haven’t read it, it’s pretty good.)